I am 41, I have wrinkles coming, I have grey hair popping up as quickly as I dye my hair, I really should get my hair lightened to solve this. I am overweight and have wobbly bits.
This is ME!
How did I get to the stage where I was more positive about my body? Believe me, it took years, especially when a boyfriend at one point said I was getting bigger and I needed to work out, go to a gym class or something (he is long gone). There is nothing worse than people putting you down, especially if it is someone that is supposed to love you.
One thing that I changed was underwear after looking at comfy bras from Knix. No more of those uncomfortable bras where the wires dig in. I am a creature of comfort so if my undergarments are comfortable that is the first step to being happier with myself and of course comfortable undergarments needn’t look drab and frumpy either, there are some really pretty designs on the market these days.
My weight and wobbly bits were a problem in my head at least, they caused me some serious body confidence issues, I was ashamed to walk around in the summer with my arms out, so I wore something covering my arms at all times. Long baggy tops to cover my bulge, you know what I mean. Then one day I thought, hold on a minute I see women like me walking around uncovered all the time and they are not looking ashamed, they look so confident.
I can do this and so I did, it was hard to start with because I thought everyone was looking at me. It was all in my head, of course, people tend to not take much notice in other people walking in the street. If they are looking they are probably just as insecure as you and thinking wow, she’s so confident.
Hair well it can be dyed or I can embrace the grey, like I said above, lightening it would solve a lot of it, so maybe I will get highlights soon.
Wrinkles, well I don’t have many, I moisturise with vitamin E moisturiser every morning and night. I don’t use serums or anything like that. Makeup works well with a good primer before foundation does the trick at the moment.
We all come in different shapes and sizes, we don’t come from a mould we should be embracing that, the world would certainly be boring if we were all the same, wouldn’t it?
At the end of the day my husband loves me regardless and so does my kids and family so why should I worry about what anyone else thinks anyway.
I chose to accept and appreciate that all of these things are a part of me; yes I do cover some things like wrinkles and grey hair but who doesn’t. Did you know some people are fully grey at 25 but you wouldn’t know as they cover it too?
At the end of the day who cares what anyone else thinks. As long as I am happy with myself then stuff everyone else!
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