People can walk all over you at different times in your life, for instance; When you are in a relationship you should be treated as an equal, respected and loved. Now we know not all relationships are like this. Something that seemed so right at first could change either gradually or overnight.
I have been in that situation a long time ago and I put up with it because you do if you are in love. You overlook it, make excuses for them thinking it’s just a blip and things will go back to how they were at the beginning. Sometimes it is just a blip and things do go back to normal and sometimes it will never stop.
With my situation it got to a point where I thought I don’t want this anymore, there is more to my life. I didn’t want my child thinking this was normal. It took a while for me to have the actual courage to leave but when I did I felt empowered that I could do that. I felt stronger, I could hold my head up high and the relief was immense.
Other instances occurred as the years went by, power hungry bosses who belittled me because I was a single mum and another relationship where I was controlled. It hit rock bottom at that point, I drank a lot, had depression and fell down a black hole.
It was not a nice place to be but after seeking help I saw the light at the end of the tunnel and I pushed myself to be that happy, confident person I once was.
The rest as you may say is history, I have never looked back, will never let anyone treat me in those ways again. I am now happily married and so different from yesteryear that you probably wouldn’t recognise me.
Many people these days have turned to life coaching like that of Orion’s Method as their way of boosting the confidence, for love coaching and generally to empower themselves in ways they couldn’t before.
Other tried and tested ways are;
Learn to say no. It is actually a hard word and one we don’t like using because we don’t want to upset people, but would they continue to say yes to you every time? Probably not!
Stop worrying about what others may think of you, who cares what they think?
Stop comparing yourself to others, this can only lead to low self-esteem and it is like a germ that breeds. Remember the grass is not always greener. Focus on daily positive affirmations repeated often with a sense of real feeling and connection they are designed to encourage a life filled with positivity and gratitude. Yes, they really do help.
Another great thing I learnt was that there is no such word as can’t; it is very easy to say I can’t do this because I don’t… I will give you a quick example. “I can’t set up a blog, I don’t know how to”
I can, and I will learn how to do it. Turn can’t into cans!
Never let anyone put you down, no matter who they are.
There is a popular song that describes so many women who have empowered themselves; do you know what it is from these two lines?
I’m not scared to be seen
I make no apologies, this is me!
This is a collaborative post